Have you ever wondered if your partner was cheating on you? I think we all have worried about that. It seems like once that worry comes in we just can’t get it out of our heads, am I right?
When you think your partner is grinding up on someone else or even sliding into their DMs, it’s hard to think about anything but that. Jealousy consumes you and you do and say things that can seem crazy.
It’s a normal thing though, jealousy. Most people experience it. What makes the difference is how you react to it. For example, I would ask them. This guy set up a scheme with the YouTube Channel “To Catch a Cheater,” to see if his girlfriend would cheat.
Peter, the paranoid boyfriend, wants to see if his girlfriend will cheat on him. He conspires with “To Catch a Cheater” and plants an attractive personal trainer to help her at the gym. He knows the rouse, so he’s flirting hardcore.
Meanwhile, her boyfriend is watching it all on tape. This is bound to make him angry. Why couldn’t he just ask her if she was cheating? His speculation and assuming behavior is soon to push to him to the brink.
Not only is Peter paranoid, he’s also got a lot of nerve. He sent his girlfriend to the gym because he thought she had gained to much weight. Which is where she met this considerate, hot trainer that Peter planted there. Peter seems to be a real piece of work, and he’s like a 0.5 on the crazy/hot scale – not worth it, ladies – get out if he that cray.
Part of what the trainer does is not unlike another guy in the world, using his position to grope up on her while still being professional. Of course she thinks it normal – she even looks like she likes it.
Her psycho, crazy, drama queen of a boyfriend, watches in horror as his worse fears are confirmed. His girlfriend appears to be loving the attention and he can’t believe his eyes. Which is a bit strange since this is what he thought would happen… in fact he wanted it to happen according to the video…
Here’s how crazy this dude is, he was looking for a reason to break up with her. He couldn’t just be honest with the girl. He had to get paranoid and pissy instead of just express himself. And then, when she gives him what he wants – he gets his panties all in a bunch – over just a little touching. Or was there more?
You gotta hand to the “in-the-know” seducer, he’s putting his hands in the all of the right places. He knows which poses will remind her the most of sex. How could she be expected to control herself, he was all over her.
Peter didn’t see it that way. Peter wasn’t ready for his girlfriend to be so accepting and open to the advances of the other man. Did ever stop to consider that maybe he wasn’t the only one thinking about ending it? Peter suddenly started acting like he didn’t want to break up with her. Did that change when it went too far?
The trainer puts the girl into some yoga poses that require some up close and personal touching. She consents and even seems to be pushing into him a little more than Peter was ready for. She’s getting freaky and he’s getting squeaky…
The personal trainer takes it a step further and asks her to hang out! He’s going to know if she is capable of cheating on him. She will say sure, or no and he will have a reason to break up with her…
Peter’s girlfriend SHOCKED HIM, when she told the guy the truth. That she had a boyfriend, but they could still hang out. What? Why would Peter possibly think that a girl and a guy can be friends?!?!?!?! I mean, she told him, so it’s cool thought, right?
Peter seemed unaware of his double standard, accusatory, abusive behavior, like so many others in monogamous relationships with ridiculous and not negotiated expectations. Those double standards continue every time we act as if men can’t control emotions and that women should be able to. It’s part of patriarchy at it’s finest. Peter assumed many things about his girlfriend and acted on those instead of just talking to her.
What we would it be like if we were honest every step of the way about what we wanted from relationships, with everyone involved?