Getting cheated on is devastating now matter who's involved. But envision someone you're planning to marry in two months cheating on you... with your sister. And if that's not enough to compound the trauma, imagine this all occurring right before Christmas. Um, yeah.
That's what happened to Redditor cheatingfiancee26, a 26-year-old woman who thought all was well in her five-year relationship until she stumbled upon Facebook chats between her 29-year-old fiancé and 24-year-old sister. In her view, the two of them weren't even all that close, so you can only imagine her shock when she discovered the messages.
In the thread, she writes that the chats contained "a ton of dirty texts, nudes, and messages to meet up. I was absolutely shocked when I saw this. It turns out whenever he tells me I'm going out with the boys,' he's really been f---ing my sister." She also adds, "He hadn't shown any signs of being unhappy or cheating, I mean we're getting married in two months for god's sakes! And my sister, our entire lives we've been so close to one another. She's the one who I rant to, spill all my secrets, get advice and support from, she even helped my fiancé propose to me! I just can't believe they would do this to me."
They were planning to go to her family's house for Christmas today, but she doesn't know if she can keep it together. (And really, who could blame her?)
Here's what some fellow Redditors advised her to do:
"Take back your holiday. Seriously, f--- trying to keep the peace. Tell your parents that your sister is f---ing your fiancé and that you will not spend Christmas with either of them. Offer screenshot proof. Make alternate plans for Christmas at a friend's house. Hold a boundary that you will not be around either of them. You will be 10 times more miserable if you try to hold out and have this fight after Christmas. You didn't ruin the holidays, they did." —Punky_Grifter
"That kind if betrayal by a stranger is bad, by a friend is worse, and by a sister is inconceivable. You're the one who deserves the home and the support system." —lnoral
"Another option would be to encourage' the sister to tell the parents what she's done. As in, If you don't admit your behavior to our parents (and don't sugar-coat it) I'm going to show them the proof.' If everybody (parents, sister, fiancé) knows you have the evidence and are prepared to present it, you probably won't have to." —PeakPredator
"The only time I would ever recommend not telling your folks the truth is if you thought there was a chance of reconciliation between you and him. But this isn't some drunken snog with a random girl. And if you don't tell them they're going to be full of awkward questions." —twistedpants
"Honestly, your parents deserve to know what's going on, so they can be there for you. Also, consider this: your sister didn't care an inch about your feelings or how this would impact her family. Your sister doesn't care about anyone other than herself OP. Why on earth should you consider her, especially since she has done nothing but take a giant crap on your heart and on your family? Seriously, tell your parents, if only so they can be properly informed on what's going on." —webbgirl88
"I'd screenshot everything, make two hard copies of it all, wrap each copy in the prettiest Christmas paper I could find, and have them each open their gifts at my parents' house in front of the family Christmas morning."—drunzae
"As painful and miserable as this is and is going to be for the next few weeks, please remember: you dodged a bullet, sister. You didn't marry a sociopathic cheater who would have undoubtedly ruined your life. He may ruin your Christmas, he's certainly going to f--k up your relationship with your sister (she sounds completely jealous of you, really, that's why siblings usually f--k spouses/partners of family members) ....but you didn't spend the next decade with some kind of creep who would have made you miserable, in the end. Time for a big discussion with your fiancé and your sister, if not an actual PowerPoint presentation. Time to call a counselor. Time for a heart to heart with your parents." *—Dorkypotato *So, does she confront her fiancé and sister now or hold off until after the holidays? What do you think she should do? Share in the comments.
