Sometimes you think you know what you're looking for until you find it. Then you might realize the relationship that seemed perfect in theory won't actually work out in reality.
Here are some reasons women turned down the person who seemed perfect for them on paper.
"He was thoughtful, sweet, patient, and handsome. He was eerily similar to me in almost every way. I rejected him because he was even more introverted than me, and I foresaw that if we were in a relationship, I would have begun to resent him for not being social 'enough.' I knew the amount of alone time I needed was different than his, and I didn't want to change or want to want to change who he was. We parted ways amicably and became friends. We see one another about once a month and discuss our lives and dating experiences. I am secretly on the lookout for someone to set him up with, perhaps due to guilt. But I am still confident in my decision." —Alexa, 26
"We were together for seven years and even got married, but I always felt like I was missing something important because I never wanted him physically. I thought I wanted sex, and then I realized I wanted passion, and then I realized I wanted love." —Karen, 35
"She was very perfect, professional, organized, successful, and social, and I felt that I was never going to match her expectations. She would always ask for more time, commitment, meeting parents, and the like, and I started to feel like there was a script of perfection that I had to follow, and I wasn't familiar with the script. It was a weird feeling of sensing that she had a lot of control over me." —Maria, 38
"He wanted to get married and have kids, and I wasn't ready." —Cathy, 35
"I had to take care of my mom at a young age, and I was afraid to overcommit and over-stretch myself. I knew he'd want marriage and a family, and I couldn't be the caretaker for everyone." —Taylor, 27
"I ended up leaving him because I realized, over time, he had no substance. He had no depth. He just lived life based on what he thought he was supposed to do and what made him look like he was doing the right things. He could not have a deep conversation, nor could he simply open up and talk and listen. Also, he was painfully boring in bed once the newness of our relationship wore off. I spent nine years trying to reignite the spark of what I thought could be a fabulous sex life. Glad that's over." —Eva, 40
"He doesn't understand my work. We don't connect on a creative or intellectual level." —Rachel, 34
"We had been together for four years. I had just gotten a new job a day after he lost his, and a month or two later, he got a job offer on the other side of the country. We could have stayed together if I had asked. I'm 100 percent sure of it. I knew if I asked, it would have made it so much harder for him to transition into his new job, life, and make friends if he was constantly going home to Skype or call me. I think we helped each other grow as much as we could, and it was a part of growing up. He was there for some of the worst moments of my life and was my rock. He's still my friend, and of course I love him and want the best for him. It felt really good the last time we got together when he was in town, a few months ago, and to hear how well he was doing. It was a quiet break up. I drove him to the airport, gave him a hug, and said goodbye. Caring about someone sometimes means you have to do what's right for them, even if they don't know it yet." —Allyson, 27
Have you ever left someone who seemed perfect for you on paper? Did you regret it?
