They say the grass is always greener. If you're single, you sometimes feel like the entire world is in love and you're just watching from the sidelines. But it seems like people can forget that this works the other way around: If you're in a committed relationship, you'll have moments when you look back and single life seems like a positively verdant missed opportunity. That's why you've got to make the most of your single time, because at one point it'll just be a wistful memory. Here are a few ways to do just that.
- Travel solo. Going to a foreign place by yourself is just the right mix of exhilarating and scary that will help you grow as a person without terrifying the bejeezus out of you. Of course, you can travel alone when you're in a relationship, but you'll probably want to spend every vacation with your guy, and there's nothing wrong with that. Single time gives you an opportunity to think of where you've always wanted to go and buy a ticket. Or even spin a globe and just point somewhere, like they do in movies.
- Have a fling. A romance with a deadline (like he's moving across the country soon, or maybe you met him on the aforementioned solo trip) will encourage you to pack your time together full of lovely memories and tons of orgasms. That's what I'd call a win-win.
- Date two guys at once. You don't have to have sex with both of them if you don't want to, but juggling two guys will give you a colossal confidence boost. It proves that you're in demand and you can choose who you want to be with! No settling necessary.
- Be with someone totally different from your type. If you always go for brown-haired, soft-spoken men, try a gregarious ginger. Or if you can't get enough of worldly finance guys, see what life is like when you've got a dreamy artist by your side. Experimenting with different kinds of men will help you narrow down what really works for you, which may be the opposite of what you would have thought at first.
- Multiple orgasms. Or at least be with someone who will try his damndest to make them happen (and, if the rest of him is just as great, maybe settle down with him?).
- Have a heart-wrenching breakup. It's awful, but going through a can't-eat, can't-sleep breakup teaches you so many important lessons: how far you'll go for love, that sometimes love just isn't enough, and that you're stronger than you realize. But if you can make it to forever with someone and skip this part, more power to you!
- Live with your best friend. You'll never get the chance again, unless you two make a pact to move in together when you're 90 if your husbands are gone.
- And then live alone. It's so important to have a space that's all your own and to get comfortable with truly being by yourself. Not only can it make you a more interesting person, it can make you more self-assured too.
What love-life experiences do you want to experience before you settle down? Or if you're already with your forever person, which experiences are you so glad you had before you got together?
