Here's a voice mail you don’t expect to hear: "I'm so sorry if this is weird or creepy. My name is [Girl]. I just have a question for you, and please be honest with me: How do you know [my ex]? Please just text me or give me a call when you have the chance! Thanks!”
Throwawayq44 found this message in her inbox, and she suspects it means her ex is hiding something from his current girlfriend. He was emotionally abusive and a cheater, she explained on Reddit, and she’s ignored his many phone calls, texts, and letters since the breakup.
"I'm guessing she found something out about me from his friends/family or possibly snooped through his phone to find he has been trying to contact me,” she wrote. "My intuition tells me not to touch this with a 10-foot pole, but a part of me wants to call her back and gently tell her the truth and set the record straight.”
Should she warn her, or should she stay out of the drama at all costs? Here’s what Reddit thought:
"I feel like the best thing to do would be to call her back and tell her what's what, but continue avoiding your ex. If he was emotionally abusive to you, he might be doing the same thing to her, and you sound like you don't want her to go through what you did. If you've been successfully avoiding him for this long, may as well keep it up, but don't let her stay in the dark.” —1701-74656
“Yeah, you should probably help the victim of an abusive cheating douchebag. Just call and answer the questions she needs because it doesn’t hurt you and helps her.” —MAGGOTDICKPIE
"I think it's up to you. If you want to reach out, you can do that, or if you feel it's safer not to, don't. … It sounds like she's trying to put things together but needs proof of something. She might've gotten your number from his phone or maybe Googled your name. If you decide to talk to her, you don't even have to go into history. [You] could just say you are an ex." —Muffinwillow
"If you can do it safely, it would be a big kindness to tell that girl the truth about your ex. But don't put that ahead of your safety or mental health." —whyisanything
After taking some of the advice, she updated the post. She decided to text the woman and warn her about her ex. It turned out his phone revealed he’d been trying to call her late at night for a month and a half, and the new girlfriend wanted to know why. The OP didn’t know about this because she’d blocked his number. She’s glad she got in touch.
Have you ever heard from your ex’s new S.O.?
