The last time ladyincake saw her former friend with benefits, she thought their relationship had run its course. They live in different countries, after all, and only saw each other when they were in the same city briefly. Recently, she decided casual hookups weren't really for her, and she moved on. No damage done—or so she thought.
Then, she received an unexpected Facebook message. "Today, I got a message from a girl saying that she knows it's weird, but wanted to know how I knew him," she told Reddit. "She said she has been in a relationship with him for four years. That would mean that our time together overlapped." Uh oh.
Her instinct is that she wouldn't be a home-wrecker by ratting him out because he's the one who sealed the relationship's fate. She's a bit worried that if she stirs the pot, he could use nudes she's sent him against her, though.
Should she tell her former fling's girlfriend that he cheated? Or is that the couple's business and theirs alone? Here's what Reddit said:
"Wouldn't you want to know your BF of four years was a cheating piece of sh*t? It sounds like she already suspects something was up or maybe is having doubts now that marriage might be on the table. As you said, you're not ruining his relationship by telling her. He already did it by lying to you and cheating on her." —TeslasCurrentAlt
"You should confirm how you know the guy to the girlfriend. Leave emotions out of it. Outline dates and give her the facts. Then just leave it at that and move on. You are right, he ruined his own relationship. You have nothing to do with his bad actions because you didn't know she existed. She deserves to know so that she can confront him and leave appropriately." —pregsthethrowaway
"I would reply, 'Oh FML, I thought he was single and we met at X place and have hooked up on and off over this many years. I'm so sorry that you've been cheated on, and I swear I didn't know. Ugh.'" —coffee_goddess
"I normally tell people not to get involved in the relationships of other people. But since this woman is asking, you should tell her." —Julevict
"If he has nudes of you with your face, I would just drop it. In 99 percent of cases, it's better to tell, but in this case, you really have no idea who this guy is or what he would do with those if he finds out you told." —little-capybara
What do you think? Should she tell this woman the truth or just stay out of the situation?
