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17 Challenges Every Women Who Share a Bed With a Man Has To Deal With

Maybe one of the biggest tests of a relationship's strength is how well you two can successfully share a bed. Say what you will, but it really seems to me like beds were made for one person. Except for maybe king-size beds, which are basically big enough that you can share them without even realizing it. That's the ideal situation.

1. I am not going to let you spoon me all night long. I don't get how anyone finds this comfortable for more than five minutes before feeling like they're trapped in a sweaty arm prison of their own making.

2. I have a side of the bed and there is no way you are taking it from me. It is this side, and yes, it's better, and no, you can't have it, because my body shape is already permanently indented over here and what if you screw that up?

3. You absolutely cannot sleep on my very cute decorative pillows. I have regular pillows, pillow shams, and then some decorative pillows I paid way too much money for. You may sleep on the regular pillow and that is all.

4. I'm blown away by how many stray little man hairs I find left behind when you get up. I think guys might actually shed more than girls do because it's seriously astonishing. I could make a wig.

5. I know what you're trying to say when you "accidentally" poke me with your boner. I feel that thing back there, rubbing up ever so carefully against my back. Put it away! There are more polite ways to ask to have sex! Like using words!

6. I'm not in for a night-long tug o' war with these covers. If you pull these off me and I wake up freezing at 3 a.m. there will be hell to pay.

7. If you start snoring, I might start slapping you in the face. You know that lying on your back makes you snore. Maybe just don't lie on your back. Problem solved!

8. Your body goes underneath the flat sheet. Why do men have such a hard time with the flat sheet? It goes directly on top of your body, and it is nice and soft, which is why I have it on my bed in the first place. Stop lying on top of this thing because that traps me underneath it.

9. If we're cozy enough to share a bed, we're cozy enough to kiss with morning breath when we wake up. Don't rush out of bed and brush your teeth and then leave me alone with my slovenly troll morning breath. We're better than this.

10. I like taking up the entire bed just as much as you do, but I'm not rude so I won't do that. You do not get to starfish in my bed. If anyone can, it's me and me only.

11. It feels like your body literally transforms into a radiator when you fall asleep. You were a normal temperature during the day but now it suddenly feels like you're radiating 1,000 degrees of heat in my little bed and oh my god, I'm sweating so much, how do you live with yourself.

12. If you wake me up before my alarm, I am going to turn into a monster for the rest of the day. If you wake up first, that is fine. But please. Please. Be mindful and don't wake me up super-early.

13. Sharing a bed does not equal endless sex throughout the night. Nighttime is when I sleep. This doesn't change just because you are sleeping over.

14. I don't get why you're putting your face on my pillow when you have your own. Nothing more terrifying than waking up to someone's face in your face, even if that other face belongs to someone you like.

15. I will absolutely push and roll you over if you encroach on my space. You haven't even seen me get territorial yet. Just try me.

Here Are 8 Big Annoying Mistakes Your Wedding Guests Will Surely Make

You may have done a great job of checking things off your prewedding to-do list and diffusing any problems that arose before the big day. But one thing you can't always control is how your guests will act when they are at your wedding. Will they show up late? Drink too much? Get into a fight? Even worse? Whatever the case may be, here is a list of the seven major mistakes some of your wedding guests may make — so that there are no surprises.

1. Showing Up Late

Even though you added in some buffer time for when your ceremony actually starts, some guests will ignore the time and show up casually in the middle of the ceremony. To avoid distractions, have a sign on the door when the ceremony starts—asking late guests to wait outside.

2. Forgetting to RSVP

When it's time to sit down and see who is actually coming to your wedding, you may notice a handful of guests haven't RSVP'ed yet. You'll want to track them down for an answer as soon as you can.

3. Posting Photos on Social Media Before the Wedding

Watch out for any iPhone cameras in your face before the wedding. You may have a guest or two that sees you before it's time to walk down the aisle—and takes full advantage of that moment by posting it on Facebook prematurely.

4. Taking Full Advantage of the Open Bar

Ask the bartender to keep an eye out for any guests taking too many shots too soon. You don't want your open bar to be their excuse to get very drunk at your wedding.

5. Not Leaving Drama at the Door

One of your guests may have a messy tiff with another guest—and use your wedding as a place to try and hash out the situation. Remind them that this is not the time or the place.

6. Keeping Their Phones on Loud

You never know, you may be reading your vows to the background tune of someone's ringtone blaring in the near distance.

7. Bringing an Uninvited Plus-One

Even though you didn't give one of your guests a plus-one, they may still find the audacity to bring someone without asking or letting you know ahead of time. Have extra chairs around just in case.

Jen Glantz is a "professional bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

Shia LaBeouf Got Married To Longtime Girlfriend Mia Goth in Elvis Presley--Themed Las Vegas Wedding

Happy Married Life!, you two! Shia LaBeouf just got newly married to his longtime girlfriend Mia Goth in Las Vegas on Monday, October 10, based on TMZ reports.

According to the website, the couple — who got involved at the beginning of 2016 — exchanged their “I dos” at Sin City’s Viva Las Vegas chapel, a venue known for themed weddings.

The newlyweds opted to make it official in an Elvis Presley–themed affair. As seen in photos from the event, LaBeouf and Goth’s ceremony was officiated by a man dressed as the late King of Rock ‘n’ Roll. During the wedding (which was livestreamed by TMZ), a singer belted out Adele’s “Make You Feel My Love” as the couple held each other in an extended embrace.

The former Disney star was left in tears after he finished his first dance with his gorgeous new wife and they both agreed to “adopt each others’ hound dogs.”

The pair, who have been dating on and off since they met on the set ofNymphomaniac: Vol. II in 2012, first sparked engagement rumors last March when the 22-year-old actress attended a Miu Miu show at Paris Fashion Week on March 11 with a diamond ring on her ring finger.

In February, the Even Stevens alum referred to the British beauty as his fiancée during his Livestream performance art project #Elevate, for which he spent 24 hours riding an elevator.

Neither star publicly acknowledged their engagement and they seemingly split for a brief period last July after the Transformers actor was caught on tape threatening Goth. LaBeouf previously dated stylist Karolyn Pho for two years before they split in 2012. He dated Carey Mulligan for about a year before that, but the Wall Street: Money Never Sleeps costars called off their relationship in 2010.

Here Is The 'Wowsome' Wedding Dress of 'Bachelor' Alum Nikki Ferrell

Train-spotting! Nikki Ferrell married Tyler VanLoo in a romantic ceremony on Saturday, October 8, in Kansas City, Missouri, wearing quite the stunner of a wedding dress.

The Bachelor alum, 29, who memorably won the final rose, but no proposal from Juan Pablo Galavis during season 18, walked down the aisle in a strapless mermaid dress. The white confection boasted a sweetheart neckline, embellished bodice and lengthy tulle train. Ferrell finished her ensemble with a Veronica Couture veil and Lindsay Marie Design Isadora Headpiece, both of which she pinned into a curly half-updo.

As for her bridesmaids, the pediatric nurse dressed the ladies — including former Bachelorette Andi Dorfman — in petal-pink dresses by Two Birds. (Dorfman, 29, shared a snap of herself in the pastel number via Instagram and joked, "My #MCM goes to anyone willing to catch this bouquet 💐 #vanloopartyof2.")

Ferrell and VanLoo, who started dating in 2015, tied the knot in an afternoon ceremony in front of their family and friends. After the bash, the bride took to Instagram to share a series of shots, including one inside the church, moments after she and her husband said their I do's. "This gives me all the feels," Ferrell wrote. "I cannot begin to describe how amazing this weekend was. I wish I could go back and relive every single moment a thousand times over. Thank you to everyone who was a part of the best day of our lives, from our wedding party, down to the very last guest. Tyler and I appreciate every single one of you."

This Bride Sues Her Wedding's Videographer After Her Embarrassing Wedding Video Went Viral

Weddings are celebrations of love, but they can also be chock-full of embarrassing moments (sometimes family and open bars just don’t mix). Take one San Francisco affair, during which the groom drank so much, that he wasn’t able to remove his wife’s garter, instead falling down on top of her at the reception. Needless to say, the bride was mortified—and the look on her face made this clear.

While the videographer was there to catch the awful moment on camera, the newlyweds say they hid the video where they assumed it would never be watched by their family and friends. However, additional footage they didn’t even know existed was posted online, where it quickly went viral, racking up millions of views.

The bride (who is going by Jane Doe to protect her identity) is now suing George Street Photo and Video for "intentional infliction of emotional distress" in federal court. While she has attempted to have the video removed from the internet multiple times, it always seems to pop back up somewhere else.

In a statement to NBC, George Street neither confirmed or denied his responsibility for posting the video online. "We are very disappointed and upset by this situation, and we have spent considerable time removing our video from the internet," he said.

According to attorney Robert Schenk, who runs WeddingIndustryLaw.com, this bride likely won’t win her case. "Whenever a videographer or photographer approaches a couple with a contract, generally they are getting paid money to take the images, but they’re going to be the copyright owner of the images by default," attorney Robert Schenk, told Yahoo Style. "They can do whatever they want with it."

So heads up, future brides: You might want to take a closer look at your photographer’s and videographer’s contracts before signing on the dotted line. (Though, asking your husband to take it easy at the open bar isn’t a bad idea either.)

From: Woman's Day

Why I Refused To Take My Husband's Last Name

As a little girl, I took it for granted that I would probably meet the right person and get married one day and when I did, my last name would probably change just as my mother's had, just as her mother's had. As I grew older, the idea of taking a man's last name seemed less automatic to me, as did the idea of marrying at all. But when I started dating the man who eventually became my husband, it became quickly apparent to me that maybe I would wind up marrying, after all. When he told me he wanted to marry me, I agreed with the idea. We worked well as partners and I liked the idea of committing to our partnership.

Throughout the months of engagement, I wondered about my surname. I wasn't certain that I would keep it—I liked his last name better than mine phonetically and I wondered about the nuances of having different last names if we had children together. I wasn't sure that the issue of changing my last name or not was important to me, but I've never been too traditionally-minded, either. As the date and decision-making time neared, my instincts grew louder and my clarity on the subject sharpened: I couldn't change my name.

While planning our wedding, I found myself facing ethical quandaries throughout the process. The more I researched the history behind what I perceived to be relatively innocent wedding traditions, the more they seemed to be anything but. I am a feminist because I refuse to settle for less than equal rights between men and women and many modern wedding traditions are symbolic of the rights women have been decidedly not allowed to have throughout the centuries. With this in mind, making wedding-related decisions was difficult for me. This isn't to say that women who engage in these traditions or who change their name after marriage aren't feminists, but with equality for women in mind, many of these gestures became a little heavier for me.

I didn't eschew every wedding tradition—my father walked me down the aisle and I'm glad he did. But I couldn't compromise on changing my last name. I've worked hard over the years for successes and experiences that are each tied to my name. My friends, my colleagues, and my acquaintances know me by my name. And I know me by my name, too. To strip that identity away from me for the sake of tradition seemed absurd by the time my wedding day rolled around. I considered the unfairness in me having to take the time to wait in lines and fill out paperwork for a new passport and license and everything else, all for the sake of tradition.

In the end, what made the most sense was for me to simply not change my name at all and for him to do the same. We weren't abandoning our pasts to start a new life together—we were two people, each with our own histories, agreeing to walk together where we once walked alone. My name does not define me, but it's a lot more relevant to who I am than my husband's.

When our daughter was born, we deliberated for days trying to nail down what her name should be. We wanted her to have his last name, but we weren't sure how—or if—we would incorporate my name into hers. It was my husband's suggestion to then give her my first name as one of her names instead, so she now carries his last name as her last and my first as her middle.

And me? I am who I always was—and that's exactly the point.

FROM Reginald Rebook*

*some name's changed.

15 Wedding Guests Reveals that Instance They Knew that Marriage is Going To Fail

Research has shown that contempt is the top predictor of divorce, but perhaps the (un)happy couple should simply ask their wedding guests for honest feedback if they really want to know what's in the cards.

A recent Reddit post which asked, "What happened at a wedding that let you know the marriage was going to end in a divorce?" sparked nearly 12,000 comments, as former wedding guests weighed in on the red flags they had witnessed at receptions. Then, Daily Mail covered the thread, drawing even more comments from its own readers.

Here are some of the earliest indicators of a future trip to divorce court, according to comments:

1. Empty promises: "During the vows they had written for each other, the bride starts with, 'I know I can be a pretty terrible person, and I don't know why you've stuck around, but that's all going to change starting today!' They were divorced a year later."

2. Stubborn standoff: "We knew the couple was in trouble when they frowned during most of the ceremony and later didn't go on a honeymoon because they couldn't agree on a destination. They had plenty of money—just no desire to compromise."

3. Match maid: "The groom said in his speech, 'When I joined a dating agency I never thought I'd be so lucky as to find my own personal cook, dishwasher, and washing machine.'

4. Junk mail: "I was a wedding planner, and [one of the brides] went through all of the invites and threw away [the groom's] family's invites, but left his parents. When the wedding day came, he walked in, looked around, saw his mother, who then told him no one else was invited. [The couple] had a huge argument, there and then at the aisle. Needless to say, the wedding didn't go through."

5. Wedded diss: "The father of the bride at my best friend's wedding told him, 'She's just like her mother. I don't know how you're doing this.' They got divorced less than a year later."

6. Meddling mother-in-law: "The groom looked drunk and the bride seemed incredibly angry. There was this woman walking around during the reception placing bets on when they would divorce. I later found out she was the mother of the groom."

7. Major misnomer: "My now ex called me by his ex-wife's name on our wedding night. The next day his father called me "Catherine." My name is Julie."

8. Honest vows: "The bride had the minister put 'Til death, or divorce, do us part' into the ceremony."

9. Twisted logic: "At the end of the reception the guys are sitting at a table away from everyone else talking and we ask the groom why he proposed. His answer? 'Because she was naked.' The marriage lasted about a year and a half."

10. Tell-tale giggles: "During the ceremony when the priest started asking the bride "Do you take this man to be your...", she started laughing uncontrollably and couldn't stop. Is was cute for about 10 seconds and then things got uncomfortable. They lasted a year and change."

11. Self-sabotage: "The bride told us, as she was going from table to table thanking the guests, that she didn't think it would last. They lasted about a year."

12. Cold shoulder: "She flinched when he turned to kiss her. They were divorced within six months."

13. Sibling rivalry: "During the groom's speech at the wedding, he told us that he was first attracted to his wife's sister.

I AM GETTING MARRIED WHILE MY PARENTS ARE GETTING DIVORCED!

The first call Will and I made to announce our engagement was to my mom, Sally, who lives in Evanston, Illinois, near where I grew up. She let out a loud whistle, then started to cry. I did too. Our next call: to my dad, Ken, in his not-yet-furnished apartment in Jacksonville, Florida. He’d moved there because he and my mom, after 34 years together, were getting divorced. I felt happy delivering the news, but guilty too. I was just starting my love story while theirs was ending. Since the day my dad sat me and my siblings down and told us their decision a few months ago, I’ve racked my brain for the reasons; sure, they fought about money, they were long-distance a lot, but at family dinners, when the right song came on, they’d dance. So why now? My siblings and I have speculated over late-night bourbons. But before I get married, I want real answers. So I asked each of my parents directly. Dad rescheduled our phoner twice. Mom downed a dirty martini before we talked. Here’s what I learned:

Me: What first attracted you to each other?

Mom: Dad seemed very steady and had dreams he was capable of fulfilling; at 28, that made my head spin. And he held me so tight—I felt so loved.

Dad: Your mom has a great personality. And she’s very pretty. We had great times, especially sailing. Me: When did things first go bad?

Dad: It was gradual. Your mother was giving her attention to your older sister and not much to me, or it felt that way. Kids are important, but the relationship should be a priority too.

Mom: Dad got caught up in his work. When his company went kerplunk, I think he lost his sense of self. I never saw it as a failure, but I think he did. ... Still, I didn’t think then, This marriage is over. I don’t think I ever thought that. Until it was.

Me: [My chest hurts.] Dad, when I was a kid you were away a lot.

Dad: Well, we tried to meet somewhere in the middle for family vacations—Greece, the Canary Islands, the U.K.

Me: Did you two ever do anything alone on those trips?

Dad: [Pause.] Not really, Kate.

Mom: All I wanted was Dad to come home from work and cuddle up and watch silly TV together. I never told him that, though.

Dad: I did what I had to do, or I wouldn’t have had a job.

Mom: At one point Dad did suggest moving to North Carolina. He’d always wanted to teach, but I didn’t want to give up our home and friends. I’ve always wondered what would’ve happened if we’d done that.

Dad: We could’ve started over.

Me: Before separating, you wanted to retire to Florida, and Mom wanted to stay and continue the private psychotherapy practice she’d built.

Dad: That was a big factor in our divorce. Your mother doesn’t like change.

Me: What advice would you give Will and me?

Mom: Take time to listen to each other; once you’re saying, “You’re not listening to me,” it’s too late.

Dad: Give each other space, which you and Will do well. Don’t be jealous or clingy, or try to change each other.

Mom: Don’t sweep things under the carpet to put a good face on. Years go by in a nanosecond. And talk about money! It’s taboo for some people, but it’s important. Dad wasn’t always honest about money, mostly because I think he really wanted to give me everything I wanted.

Me: Is there anything you’d take back?

Mom: I would have asked for help in understanding my husband better. After 34 years I don’t think we ever really understood each other.

Me: Did you stay together for us kids?

Mom: I did love him. I still love him. He’s a good man. But sometimes you can get into this rut where you treat each other in a certain way. Don’t let that happen.

Dad: Sometimes your whole life hinges on one really good decision. You’ve made a good decision to marry Will.

Mom: Are you OK, Kate?

I told her I was fine, and we said our goodbyes, but I wasn’t. I was scared. I believe my parents made a good choice in marrying each other; I know I am in choosing Will. It’s all the decisions after our wedding day that will determine if we struggle—or get even stronger.

8 Awesome Things You Can Buy at Moderately Affordable Cost For a Wedding

While lots of couples like to go all-out with their weddings, some find the $26,645 that the average American wedding costs a little excessive. Eloping is becoming increasingly popular as more couples decide they'd rather hold an intimate event than dish out the big bucks. After all, money is a big reason fewer millennials are getting married than ever.

If you decide to skip out on the big wedding—or go for a cheaper version of it—one advantage is that you can spend the cash you would've reserved for it elsewhere. Here are just a few ways you could allocate it:

1. Splurge on the honeymoon

That $26,645 is enough for a long, luxurious trip is an understatement. In fact, $25,000 allowed one person to go on a two-month expedition in Antarctica and South America. Another traveler used that much money to visit a top spa in Hong Kong and stay in villas with private butlers in the Maldives. If a luxury vacation isn't for you, you'll get a whole lot of regular ones—approximately eight 12-day international trips and 46 four-night domestic ones, to be exact.

2. Give your home a makeover

You can make your everyday living space crazy-gorgeous for less than the cost of decorating for that one event: $26,645 is more than enough to sub out your Ikea furniture for several cute antique pieces, invest in some artwork to make your walls a bit less drab, or get that king-sized bed that would help both of you sleep better.

3. Upgrade your apartment or, instead of redoing your current place, you could just get a new one altogether. In New York City, the average one-bedroom is a staggering $2,834 a month, while the average two bedroom is $3,635. Even with those high prices, $26,645 will cover an upgrade from a one bedroom to a two bedroom for almost three years.

4. Eat dinner out (a lot) more often Let's say your average dinner out together at a fairly nice but not over-the-top restaurant costs $50. The cost of a wedding will cover 533 of those, which means you and your boo could go out to dinner an extra night each week for 10 years—or literally every single night for a year and a half. Not a bad way to start off your married life together.

5. Get a vacation home The average one-week-a-year timeshare costs $19,000, plus an additional $660 per year. So, $26,645 should reserve you a nice romantic getaway.

6. Buy a new car Well, almost. The average cost of a new car is $33,560. But it's not a huge difference, and if you want to be festive, you can drive off from your elopement or small wedding with a "just married" banner on your new car's rear window.

7. Make a joint donation This idea comes from psychotherapist Katherine Schafler: "Finding a life partner can feel like such a gift, like the greatest treasure, and when we feel so overwhelmed with that particular brand of abundance, we're hard-wired to want to give back," she explains. "And that's a great question to ask when you find yourself in a wealth of love: 'How can we share this?'" Instead of using your savings toward yourselves, you can celebrate your marriage by donating to a cause you both believe in. And if either of you have changed your names, you've got a new name to donate in.

Wedding can be amazing experience, and there's no shame if you want to prioritize having one giant bash. But if you're one of the lucky few who's managed to save up for a wedding, this all makes a pretty compelling case to funnel those savings elsewhere.

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